| 1. How old are you? |
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| 17 |
| 2. What do you like doing? Hobbies? |
| Hiking, organizing, camping, playing sports for fun, hanging out with my friends. |
| 3. What are your plans for the future? |
| Go to college, get married eventually and have
a great job, though I'm unsure of my future occupation. |
| 4. Is marriage something you thought about
for your future? |
| Yes |
| 5. Do you expect marriage to
last? What are the odds of marriage lasting today, and what do you think
is necessary for a couple to make love last? |
| Yes, but the odds are not too good because I've noticed many divorces happening lately, but for many different reasons. To make love last, a couple needs commitment, true love, God, sacrifice, and trust. |
| 6. How important is trust in
your relationships? What are things that you can do to either build or
destroy trust in current relationships and future ones? |
| Trust is very important—it will
help the relationship last. Trust is destroyed by lying, cheating
and selfishness, but it is built on honesty, communcation, and forgiveness.
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| 7. What is the purpose of dating?
Describe a "typical" date. Does this description succeed in meeting the
purpose and goals you suggested for dating? |
| The purpose of dating is to find different
characteristics that you would like a future husband/wife and to
find a future spouse. A typical date would be something fun and
something where we could get to know each other better. Group dates
are nice for now and maybe later one to one as you get older. |
| 8. What is the difference between
love and lust? |
| Love is selfless; lust is selfish.
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| 9. How would you go about talking
to your date about boundaries? When and where? How? |
| Just by bringing it up out of the blue
and asking what their boundaries are; then I would explain my boundaries
to them. |
| 10. How would you handle a relationship
in which your boundaries were not being respected? What does this lack
of respect tell you about the person? And about your relationship? |
| I would talk to the person about why
they aren't respecting my boundaries and depending on what they
said I would break up with them. It tells me that they aren't serious
about dating and they are very disrespectful. |
| 11. What do you hope for in a
husband/wife (your definition of Mr. or Mrs. Right)? What do you think
they hope for in a wife or husband? |
| There are many things I hope for in
a future husband. I would like him to be fun and serious at the
same time. I would like for him to have a plan for his future and
know what he wants out of life. I want him to be a spiritual leader
for me at all times. Also, I would want a kind and caring husband.
|
| 12. Have you made any decisions
or choices since coming to Care Net? |
| Yes—I have decided to remain a virgin until I'm married to Mr. Right. Also, I have decided to do things differently on a date. Talking about my boundaries and their boundaries is one thing. |
| 13. How do you feel about this
pledge? |
| I feel that it is a great idea. It
can help save you from some emotional pain or experiences. |
